It doesn’t count if you put on a front and wish them all the best for their interview, but secretly feel pleased when they don’t get the job. BFFs are supposed to be each other’s cheerleaders, regardless of the situation. Once you take pleasure in watching your friend fail, you can chalk it up as a red flag in your friendship. When you’re always trying to one up each other or prove that you’re better, that’s where the problem lies. However, you should be able to tell when it gets out of hand. There’s nothing wrong with a little friendly competition between you two, as it’ll push you to be better. Sure, feeling jealous is normal, and there’s nothing wrong with wanting more than what you have, but if you resent your BFF for succeeding in areas where you don’t, they are your nemesis and no longer your best buddy. Whether your BFF moved away, made new friends, bought a new car, found a hot lover, or got promoted way above you, once you start feeling jealous and resentful, you can take it as a sign that the friendship is on the rocks. Friends are supposed to be happy for one another. If you find yourself participating in petty gossip with others, and sharing private conversations between you and your BFF, you’re certainly in the wrong. Best friends are supposed to be amazing secret-keepers, but once your special someone blabs your problems to others, you can scratch them off the “best friend” list. Didn’t know she was taking that work trip to Mexico? Had no idea he was dating someone new? Once Facebook, or other people for that matter, start informing you of your best friend’s life events, you know you have a major problem. #4 Facebook knows more about his/her life than you.
If that’s not in place, how can you call each other best friends? Whether it’s a quick hello during your lunch break, or a super long 3 AM session, keeping the lines of communication open is very important. All it takes is a simple phone call to catch up with your best friend. #3 The ‘just to say hi’ calls have stopped. If you don’t chat anymore, it’s not because you can’t, but rather, because you don’t want to. From text messaging, to phone calls, to emails, to Skype, you are spoiled for choice when it comes to forms of communication. There are a myriad of ways to keep in touch. Chatting doesn’t necessarily have to happen over Sunday brunch. You don’t have to physically be together to stay best friends. If you can’t make time for that, either-Houston, we have a problem. Live in different cities? In different countries? On different planets? There’s always Skype. Sure, reality gets in the way and you’re both busy, but if you can’t make time for each other, then that’s your first warning sign. A sign that you’re drifting apart is not meeting up as often as you should. Like looking after a house plant, friendships take effort, care, and love if you want to keep them alive. To help, here are 14 signs that your best friend isn’t your best friend anymore. It may seem impossible at first, but you will get over it more quickly than you might think. If all else fails, you need to step out of the denial zone and accept when it is time to break up with your BFF. This is one relationship worth fighting for, so be sure to give it everything you’ve got before calling it.
The first thing you should do is to work on the friendship. Of course, you should never turn a blind eye. One of you goes on a soul-searching retreat to India and comes back transformed. They have held our hand through everything: deaths in the family, graduations, breakups, first house party, and every major milestone that comes along. Reality beckons, and as painful as it is, we will lose friends along the way-even those whom we thought would never leave our sides.įrom your high school buddy, to college roommate, to desk mate at your first job, to your next door neighbor whom you’ve known your whole life, we all have that special friend who has been through it all with us. However, there’s a reason why Peter’s in Neverland and we’re here on planet Earth. Suffering from the Peter Pan syndrome of not wanting to grow up and keeping all your good friends close is normal. Realizing that your best friend isn’t your best friend anymore is downright painful, but is sometimes necessary for the betterment of everyone involved.
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